The Gift of Music
Musical ability runs deep in our family. Family history on my mother’s side says that around the turn of the century my great-grandfather, a music teacher by trade, courted my great grandmother with an autoharp. I vividly remember my maternal grandmother using that same instrument to play hymns, though she could’ve also played on the piano, the organ and the guitar. She and her husband passed on that love of music to their eight children, of which my mother was one. Each of them learned to play an instrument for the family radio program which included hymns and gospel music followed by a sermon by my grandfather. Six of the eight grew up to use their talents regularly for Sunday morning worship and one even graduated with a Bachelor’s degree in Music Education. Many of the 28 grandchildren, including myself, studied music and still play. Our family reunions seemed more like mini-recitals for the grandchildren followed by a hymn sing for the adults.
Whether it was practicing piano, singing with my mom, or studying music education in college, music was a big part of my life. The day I met Harold, he was leading worship at my grandmother’s church. Even before our children were born, we envisioned music to be important to our family. It was only natural that we pass on our passion and heritage to our four daughters. While we gave them opportunities, we did not force their participation. Their musical gifts and talent led them to include music as a part of their lives. All four play piano, three play a second instrument, two have sung on the worship team at church, and one has recorded a CD (Read more…) and is now studying worship full time. Music still continues to play a major role in my life.
A Family Call
I believe that family lines often have a common destiny and that God gives gifts to achieve that call. In the Old Testament, God set the precedent and called the family of Levi to a common destiny—to care for and serve in the tabernacle. Throughout history, businesses and trades have been (and continue to be) passed down to the next generation in the family. History is replete with examples of families who governed—dynasties in China, monarchies throughout Europe and Russia. Although we in the United States have the privilege of voting for our leaders, there is often a pattern of generations of families who serve in governmental leadership. Generation influence is also strong in the area of acting, Olympic participation, professional sports, military service, missionary work, and even pastoral ministry.
Both my maternal grandfather and my father were ordained ministers; Harold’s maternal grandmother was an ordained minister and evangelist. The day Harold was ordained, his mother came into his office and began to pray fervently for him with tears streaming down her face. She later explained to us that she felt compelled to pass on the anointing of her mother. It was an incredibly powerful moment.
Leading from Legacy
At some point, every child struggles to find their place. What am I good at? Where can I excel? What should I major in? What job should I get? What is God’s plan for my life and my future? Here are some ways to lead from the legacy God has given your family:
Consider your family tree. When guiding children of any age, study past generations. Do you see a common passion or gift throughout the generations? Is there something that God has called your family to accomplish? Ask God if your child is part of that legacy and listen to your child’s areas of interest. Our girls are inspired when they hear of how God has used their grandparents and honored when they think about following in their footsteps.
Broaden your focus. For instance, though our family has a legacy of music, the gift of teaching has also been passed down from my great-grandfather. Two of my aunts and several of my cousins are professional teachers. I combined the two and became a music teacher.
Think outside the box. God doesn't always follow the same path; sometimes he does something new. In our family, two of our four are passionately pursuing music as part of their daily life. One daughter is pursuing education and another is pursing medicine. To my knowledge there is no gift of medicine in our family, that doesn't mean she can’t or shouldn't pursue medicine. God sometimes skips a generation or even establishes a new stream.
Be intentional. Before filling the schedule with more activities, be intentional. Strengthen the strengths of your child and help him or her choose activities that grow skills or talents. At twelve Victoria gave up ballet so that she could spend more time on the music she loved. Her time was well spent. Ask questions and help your child focus on what is important for today and for the future.
Redeem the gift. Maybe your family isn’t full of great examples of Christian life or ministry. God’s gives gifts, but it’s up to us how we use them. You can still discover hidden treasures in your family line, but God may call you to use them differently. For instance your may be from a family of successful but unethical businessmen, but God is calling you to use that same business acumen to multiply wealth for missions or ministries. Redeem the gift.
Search out the legacy of your family and walk in the blessing that God intended it to be.